Wow, I got a date.

[anewbeginning]

Well, maybe not..

I was out Saturday night doing my usual.. I try to go to the local sports bar for an awesome potato soup or philly cheesesteak sandwich once every week or two....

I sat at the bar to play the game that they have sitting there... the guy next to me introduced himself and went back to talking to his friend... then he turned and bought me a drink... then he began to talk to me.... we had much in common... he got up and left but returned with his phone number and asked me to call...

I worked up the nerve to finally call him on my way to dance class last night and he didn't answer, I figured he wouldn't...

Let's see what happens...

what about you? where are you meeting potential dates?

[tin_heart_gal]

Thats awsome Anew!

I wish we had someplace like that around here.
Unfortunatly, Being a single mom with no one to watch the kids for me, I don't get a chance to go out.

Maybe some day.
But I hope you can get to know this guy better, sounds like at the very least he may be
a new friend!

[ChilliCake]

Exciting huh, so wonder if you'll hear from him.

Oh, it's a funny thing, I always bump into people I wouldn't date. So I don't. Not because they look or act a certain way...but because my intuition warns me. I have met someone recently at the university. We flirt, but it's a mutual thing that we don't jump to any conclusions.

What is dating anyway? -- Permission to have sex with someone you're not married to? Hmm, I call them meetings, lol as nothings guarenteed. :D

[Lena]

Always good to have friends!

[anewbeginning]

Update, my date returned my call on Tuesday. We were supposed to talk on Saturday to settle the night but he didn't call.. He was a no show... but.. on Friday I went out with a friend to see a concert and I met another man. He has called me twice and he wants to take me to dinner this week... sooo I have another date... haha...

[NotTooGirly]

You know that ridiculous trite old saying about men and buses, right? ;)

Good luck, keep smiling and keep us posted. :)

[tallguy32]

Good for you. The world just seems to know when we are ready for these things and provides them as we need.

[Lena]

All the best for this date Anew!!

[LadyMoon]

Just keep up that great attitude!! :)

[anewbeginning]

haha... another no go!!! sigh.. I am just going to keep on smiling... who knows when the right one walks into my life!!

[tin_heart_gal]

You got that right Anew.

Sometimes I hear folks talk about about being stood up,
I just want to smack these guys and tell them " You have no idea what you just walked away from dude, good luck finding another gem like her!"

And yes, I would do it for any one of yalls, in a heartbeat.

[anewbeginning]

LOL..... I wanna fall through the cracks... I met a guy this Thanksgiving who flattered me a lot... now, he is 14 years younger than me... and for some odd reason he followed me around the house... grrr... he tried to get me to sleep with him and I turned him down... I am beginning to think men only want sex from me... and that my personality is not that good...

[tallguy32]

I've got a date tonight. Someone I meet on the road a couple nights ago. Going for dinner. All casual. She's a pretty cool chick and I'm about 4000 kilometers from home. This should be fun....

[NotTooGirly]

Hope your date went well, TG.

Hey anew, any news on your end?

Mentioned this in another thread, but...one of the guys from the band I went to see last week came over and introduced himself that night, we went for a walk and talked a bit after the show, had dinner Monday night, and I'll probably see him again tomorrow as well. Nice guy, funny, handsome, low-key, makes me laugh...just what I need right now.

[anewbeginning]

Nothing new muffin... I haven't heard from either of the two guys who both asked me out.. and I haven't called them.. I have been emailing a few men from okcupid and match.com.. but there is really nothing that is drawing me.. I am now enjoying having my son home with me and hoping that next year is a better year for me..

can't wait to hear more about your date muffin..

[NotTooGirly]

can't wait to hear more about your date muffin..

OMG...Muffin...after all these years I finally get a nickname!!! LOL

I'll keep you up to speed on what happens. I went to a hockey game with friends last night and missed his call, so I called him a while ago and we'll see if we can get together tomorrow.

You know, if no one out there is really tweaking your radar it's probably best to hang back a while. It's great that you're getting more time with your son, too. As for your personality - there's nothing wrong with it, dammit, so don't make me get my golden-brown authority in a bunch and go all muffin queen on you!!! :p

[LadyMoon]

There must have been some misplaced reason why they did not call.. and it's so truly their loss. There must be a cosmic reason why they have left you open to something newer and better to come along.

:)

[anewbeginning]

There must have been some misplaced reason why they did not call.. and it's so truly their loss. There must be a cosmic reason why they have left you open to something newer and better to come along.

:)

What if there is nothing newer or better? What if I am destined to be alone.. I often wonder this.. and if that is the case.. why can't we know it so we can plan for it?

[NotTooGirly]

What if there is nothing newer or better

To be honest, if that's the way it is, then that's the way it is. No amount of worrying or despair will change it, so isn't it better to make the choice to think as positively as possible? To do the best you can for yourself in the meantime, so that you can be your best possible self when the time is right? Again, if no one's catching your fancy out there, that's probably just a sign that now isn't the right time...but you can't give up believing in the possibilities because some days that belief, that hope, is all we've got to hold on to.

[anewbeginning]

To be honest, if that's the way it is, then that's the way it is. No amount of worrying or despair will change it, so isn't it better to make the choice to think as positively as possible? To do the best you can for yourself in the meantime, so that you can be your best possible self when the time is right? Again, if no one's catching your fancy out there, that's probably just a sign that now isn't the right time...but you can't give up believing in the possibilities because some days that belief, that hope, is all we've got to hold on to.

no wonder I like my muffin... hehe.. thanks sweetie.. yes.. I know it is not the time for me... I am content to love the one man from afar and bide my time for someone new.. if there is anyone at all...

[NotTooGirly]

I'll keep you up to speed on what happens. I went to a hockey game with friends last night and missed his call, so I called him a while ago and we'll see if we can get together tomorrow.
And here's your update, Anew: He did call me back, and we went out again Friday night - had dinner, went for a long (cold!) walk and talked about all kinds of things, then went to hear a couple of bands. He's a musician, and I'm a frustrated singer, so we spent most of the time making fun of what had to be one of the worst bands I've ever heard - too loud, too weird, and just plain bad. It was more fun than I'd had in a long time and worth losing as much sleep as I did. :)

[LadyMoon]

To be honest, if that's the way it is, then that's the way it is. No amount of worrying or despair will change it, so isn't it better to make the choice to think as positively as possible? To do the best you can for yourself in the meantime, so that you can be your best possible self when the time is right? Again, if no one's catching your fancy out there, that's probably just a sign that now isn't the right time...but you can't give up believing in the possibilities because some days that belief, that hope, is all we've got to hold on to.

I agree.. no point in feeling that way.. you are a positive hopeful person and while you go along in your wonderful life, biding time, enjoying the kids and the life you have made so far.. someone may or may not come along but might as well enjoy the thought that someone might!! I think they will when YOU are really ready for it. NTG is really ready for it, i think.. you might still have some stuff to work through before you are ready.. but that is only my opinion!! :)

[LadyMoon]

Oh ya.. hey.. by the way.. it's me.. i changed my name. LOL!!

[Lena]

Oh ya.. hey.. by the way.. it's me.. i changed my name. LOL!!

Suits you!!

[tallguy32]

Meet a nice young lady about a week ago. I'm impressed with her. Neither of us are in a hurry so we are just enjoying each other when the oppurtunity comes. I'm pleased to have someone in my life that thinks a little like me.

[anewbeginning]

Meet a nice young lady about a week ago. I'm impressed with her. Neither of us are in a hurry so we are just enjoying each other when the oppurtunity comes. I'm pleased to have someone in my life that thinks a little like me.

Yay!!! I am so glad to hear that tall.... good luck

[NotTooGirly]

Glad to hear that also, TG...try not to bust loose with the evil laugh just yet, you'll frighten the poor thing. ;)

I had the g-bomb dropped on me this weekend; got introduced to the band that way...yikes!! (But, okay...I secretly liked it!!)

OMG...I sound like a groupie. (sigh)

[tallguy32]

You've been refered to as the girlfriend? Wow. The guy should have discussed that with you first.... maybe he was just to scared and decided to assume it was easier. As long as you liked it, it doesn't matter. Congrats

[NotTooGirly]

Yeah, well, I didn't expect a committee meeting first or anything, but it was a bit of a surprise to hear the word. Sort of like what you said about the girl you're seeing, TG - I'm not entirely sure I'm ready for titles and all, but unless I start feeling odd about any of it I'm just going to keep going and see what happens. We've spent quite a lot of time talking, so if that continues I think things can only work out well regardless of outcome, you know?

And thanks for the congratulations. :o

[anewbeginning]

congrats and whoa.....

you two be true to yourelves... and keep us updated... wow... I really should get out and date.. hehe.. I might have fun...

[LadyMoon]

Wow.. sounds like wonderful things are happening in the relationship department for each of you.. Nice to hear!!! :)

Just remember to be true to yourselves.. I think the beginning of a new relationship is one of the most important times for remembering to be true to you and not forget yourself or it could come back to haunt you later... no matter where your fresh new relationships lead.

I wish you the best with it and hopefully these new "partners" are worthy of you. :)

[NotTooGirly]

Excellent advice, Moonie...I'm certainly doing everything I can in that regard, and to be honest things are going really, really well. I've had a few moments of hesitation regarding telling him certain things, but I'm finding that it gets easier as I go.

We spent pretty much the whole of last week together, including meeting a few of his friends and just having an incredibly fun time. Getting that social angle on each other was a boost, too, as we complement each other very well in that regard. For me the best part of it is that he clearly wants me to be a part of his life and that's not something I'm used to - but I like it.

[anewbeginning]

Muffin! I am happy for you! It is amazing isn't it? How if we just put ourselves out there we can find something to make us smile.

My time is not yet come. I have yet to date. But I am okay. I am content. Besides I am still raw. I hurt very much still over HIM. Letting him go is the hardest thing I have to do and I am unable to do it.