How do you keep going?

[Wanda Ring]

I do not miss or want to go back to my husband or soon to be ex-husband but the last month or so has been the hardest since I have moved away from my marriage three months ago. I feel like I am all over the place mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. Due to some traumas I suffered during my childhood and as an adult, I have been enduring nightmares and suffering from PTSD for about two years now. I am currently in counselling dealing with these issues as well as my marriage issues and how I got to where I am today. Recently, I somehow injured both of my rotator cuffs, the pain has been horrific, and now I am having to fight for more medical benefits. It all just feels overwhelming and one thing after another.

I was giving some narcotics from a doctor, to help with the pain; unfortunately, they did not do anything for the pain and only made my stomach hurt which caused me to vomit. I ended up throwing them out a few days ago because I was tempted to take the whole bottle and go off to sleep. All I could think about was the peace and not having to deal with any more pain of any kind. My church even suggested that I kill myself, so I ask myself why not...

I am physically sick and tired from of all of this, I just want an escape from all of these issues but at the moment there does not seem to be any, the best I can do is keep all drugs out of my home, and try to avoid people and things that cause me to stress out.

How do you do with all the stresses in your life, when you just seem to go from one stress into the next one?

How do you keep going?

[tallguy32]

I do a few things to deal with stress. The first thing you need to do is sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and write a list of every single thing you have to be thankful for. If you do it right it will be at least a page. Here are 102. I googled them

Life in the fast lane. That's how many of us live. We are so busy that we don't take the time to reflect on the good things we have. Sure life is tough but there is a lot to be thankful for. Remember those things. Reflect on those things. Here are a few to get you started.


A beautiful song
A comfortable chair
A cool breeze
A drink of cool water
A full moon
A gentle rain
A glass of cold milk
A good book to read
A good coat
A good husband
A good pillow
A good wife
A scenic drive
Air conditioning
Banana splits
Beaches in the morning
Beautiful women
Birds singing
Blue jeans
Brothers
Butterflies
Butterfly kisses
Ceiling fans
Children laughing
Christmas morning
Clothes that fit well
Comfortable shoes
Compliments
Computers that work
Cooing Babies
Cream Brule
Dark Chocolate
Dishwashers
Diversity
Dried pineapple slices
Fairness
Crackling fire in a fireplace
Flowers
Freedom of religion
Freedom of speech
Fresh ideas
Friendly dogs
Good conversation
Good eyesight
Good friends
Good health
Good movies
Good teachers
Good tires
Grace
Grandchildren
Grandma
Grandpa
Hair spray
High-speed Internet access
Holding hands
Homemade ice cream
Honest people
Hugs
Ice cubes
Indoor plumbing
Kind men
Kittens
Laughter
Live Christmas trees
Morning coffee
Parking spaces near the front
Peanut butter
Plenty of closet space
Polyester
Polite drivers
Porch swings
Pregnant women
Puppies
Quiet mornings
Rainbows
Remote Controls
Roasted peanuts
Shade trees
Silk pajamas
Sisters
Smiles
Snow covered mountains
Snowflakes
Soft toilet paper
Sunrises
Sunsets
Thanksgiving dinner
That I wasn't in the obituaries today
The color of autumn leaves
The ocean
The smell of a Sunday roast cooking
The smell of homemade bread
The words "I love you"
Tire swings
True friends
Uninterrupted dinners
Warm kisses
Warm showers
Whipped cream
White puffy clouds
Wrinkle-free clothes


Life is full of so many things to be thankful for. I've sent you two Pm's. I hope this post and the Pm will help you.

TG

[Lena]

I am so sorry Wanda!!
(((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))
Hope your pains will start disappearing very soon!

Tallguy, some of those things are good!

[NotTooGirly]

How do you do with all the stresses in your life, when you just seem to go from one stress into the next one?

How do you keep going?

For me, the first thing is to remember one very simple thing: There will never, ever be a time in my life when there is no stress. It might be positive stress or negative, but it will always be there. And so it's my choice to deal with it in the most productive way I can on any given day - by staying as positive and focused as I can and trying my best not to dwell on the negative things. It's not always easy (in fact, sometimes it's very difficult) but I've learned that the alternative quickly becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and never seem to make things better. Only by moving forward - even with the tiniest of steps - am I able to look at myself in the mirror each day and say, "Things will only get better, and I am strong enough to handle anything that comes my way."

Good luck to you, Wanda.

[LadyMoon]

Wanda.. I am so sorry to hear all you are dealing with. My complaints do not compare, but I do get stressed and think too much and anxious and hyper.

You know what I do?? When I have time alone.. completely alone, when the kids are with my husband.. I take a long hot bath. Candles, music if possible.. Just ZONE right out. Glass of wine and a glass of water. Have some nice warm towels and robe waiting for you when you get out. (I hate getting out!!!) I have a cheesy electric fireplace I make sure it's on so it will be nice and warm when I get out, and then I cosy into my bed with a book or magazine or come downstairs and watch silly or sappy chick flick. :)

I am up to a bath a week now.. it's soooo wonderful. Before my separation, I think the last bath I had was probably 4-5 months earlier. And I love baths!! So.. as much as I must admit I do not enjoy being separated much of the time.. I do love one evening to myself to completely chill out.

But.. maybe it's just me. My mom hates baths.. she says she takes a bath and says to herself.. "okay.. here i am.. sitting in dirty water.." hee hee.

I hope you will be good to yourself.. you are a sweet person and you deserve peace and happiness. :)

[anewbeginning]

Wanda, I am sorry to hear this..

for me, I look in the mirror, take a deep breath... then I pull out my bucket list... I look again in the mirror and tell myself... today is going to be a good day.. it doesn't always work.. sometimes I want to climb into bed and just let life pass me by... but then I remember someone once told me that I am stronger than I give myself credit for.. that I am an amazing woman.. and the many people would suffer if I were not around to support them.. he was a very wise man and a very huge part of my life... and I respect the things he said to me.. soooooo I move.. one step at a time.. one moment at a time.. trying to find something in my life that brings joy and a smile to my face.. a new leaf.. the dog and cat sniffing each other.. a clean house..