moving on

[dan1tkd]

After four months of working on our marriage I find out that my wife has never broke it off with who she had been seeing. She had been lying this whole time, pretending to by trying to work on our marriage when what she was doing is hoping I would give up and she would be free from being the bad guy. Once I found out and she could not lie her way out of it anymore, she said she wanted to end the marriage.
This past weekend me and my son moved into an apartment, and we are starting the divorce procedures.
This past four months have been hell. Ups and downs. Me becoming suspicious and her lying her way out of it time and time again. Now I can have some piece of mind.
I have basically been alone for over four months. I realize now that she had detached from me long before any if this happened. Now I'm ready to move on. I'm ready to meet new people and mingle a little to help take my mind off of the misery of being alone.

[Lena]

I'm sorry all that happened to you Dan!
It is sad! But hope things will start getting better for you now!

[tallguy32]

Sounds like a rough time. This is the place for you. Lots of good ideas and advice when you feel like asking, otherwise take some time, read and learn.

[anewbeginning]

wow dan, I am sorry... I hope you do mingle and find the right person for you.. just take it slow... get out and meet people.. do the things you like, and you will find people who like the same things...

here in Atlanta we have a group of singles that do different events.. I am not a part of this group because I just can't afford fun activities.. but they have cruises, they have hiking trips, they go horseback riding.. you name it, they do it... try to find something like that if you want.. or just do what you like to do.. you will find someone... it just won't be fast or easy..

[dan1tkd]

Thanks for the replies. I'm starting to adjust to living in a new place. It is difficult at times but it is getting easier.

[tallguy32]

Hey Dan

It'll get a little easier most every day. Then one day it'll be really hard again and you'll wonder if you did the right thing, then in the morning it'll be easier again. It kind of goes in cycles. It took me about 3 months to totally snap out of it. you'll get there.

[anewbeginning]

I am here after 7 months.. still very lonely, sad, upset... scared.. I have my good days.. but most are bad... hang in there...

[dan1tkd]

Thanks for the replies. It has been strange adjusting to being single. I never realized how many single women there are around my age. I have not even started datng, just texting, emailing, and talking on the phone, and I do not get much sleep at all. I am having fun with it, and it has really helped me to get through everything that has happened.

[Lena]

Good to hear you are doing well Dan!
But hope you will get some more sleep as well as have fun!!